Yeap, it’s time for THAT subject – the one that all men love, and maybe only some women. So your partner wants to have anal sex for the first time and you are not so keen. What’s the next step? Well you can either tell him straight out no, or think about other ways which the experience could be tried and maybe even enjoyed by you.
Learning to relax has got to be the most important thing when it comes to anal sex. Relaxing, and lots of lube. If your partner has a larger penis this can be very awkward and difficult for a first time effort. But if the environment is calm and pressure less, this will help a lot.
A good way to start would be by having your partner rub some lube all around your ass to try and warm things up. Following this, they could continue by gently putting one finger up your ass and play around like that for a while. Once you are nice and loose and starting to feel relaxed, then you can move forward and let two fingers go in. Now that you are both relaxed and ready, he can roll you over and start by rubbing the tip of his penis by your ass. Slow and steady teasing movements before he dips the tip of his penis into the ass. After a few slow and short strokes, reapply lube and make sure the environment is still as relaxed as possible.
How the experience goes will depend very much on the size of your partner’s penis, but also how relaxed you are because this will be a big factor when it comes to the ease of penetration. If his penis is smaller the experience will obviously be slightly easier. With a partner who has a larger cock, and with you never having had anal before then, it will be slightly weird and uncomfortable hence the preparation and warming up with having his fingers in there first to try and loosen you up a bit.
If you find that his penis is sliding in nice and easily well let things take its course and enjoy the whole experience. Keep things slow and steady without taking the penis totally out of the ass. Once in there keep it in and let him ride it slowly up and down until you give directions that he can proceed with rougher tactics. If you are really enjoying it then you could let him know and he can start slamming you harder and harder and start doing extras like pulling your hair or slapping your ass. You let him know what it is you want.
If you find that his penis is just too big and it’s not going to go in, then let him know. Try for a while, try relaxing and try lubeing up and if it’s still a no go, then just be honest and maybe go back to letting him just put a finger or two up there to get you used to the feeling. But larger penis’s are really hard work for the novice so don’t feel ashamed or that you have failed. Just tell him straight up and he will understand. You can always try again next time.
If you have any tips for the novice on how to have anal sex for the first time please share. Any advice with this topic is great advice.