The society we live in is becoming more and more liberal when it comes to ‘sex toys’ and particularly women, who are beginning to feel more secure in themselves and ‘allowed’ to have an opinion on the subject. Sex used to be a taboo subject but now it gets talked about openly in a healthy and constructive way because it is widely recognised as being an important aspect to a fulfilling relationship.

Bondage is all about trust – without it the experience is almost certainly going to be less than satisfying for at least one of the parties, if not both. That trust will only come with time and communication.

1.    Before You Start, Establish Your Limits

Have an open conversation about what you both want to get out of the experience, what you are willing to do, and especially what you’re NOT willing to do.

2.    Make Sure Your Equipment Is Safe

Naturally, bedroom bondage sessions will involve equipment that requires ‘operation.’ The range available is endless from standard handcuffs, whips, ropes, gags and blinders, escalating up to the more sophisticated items such as sex swings, body bags, bondage suspension racks. Remember, if you put someone in to this equipment you have to be able to get them out pretty quickly if things go wrong. And the equipment that holds the sub has to be sufficiently strong to avoid breaking and potential injury.

3.    Match Your Equipment To Your Experience Levels

If you’re a bondage novice, don’t go suspending your sub like an expert. Just like any relationship, your gradual growth together will lead to more satisfying experiences further down the track. Take your time to work out what each other likes, or doesn’t, and mould your sessions around what you learn. But keep what you’ve learnt to yourself so that you can pleasantly surprise them next time =)

4.    Never Abandon The Sub

Remember that the most important aspect of bedroom bondage is safety. Even if you think your equipment is safe,  nothing is ever certain. Don’t ever leave the sub, so that you are always in a position to react if something goes wrong.

5.    Have As Many Surprises As Possible

This might seem to contradict rule number 1, however, the ‘surprises’ I’m referring to aren’t the latest and flashest equipment but more about the little things. The body’s nervous system can anticipate routine movements and so it reacts fondly to new sensations. Mix it up a little with some ice or tease your sub with some random touching of various sensitive body parts.

What Are Your Experiences?

Bondage experiences will vary greatly between different partners. These rules are only guidelines for beginners. People getting involved will soon figure out what works for them and their freedom of sexual expression will naturally lead them in the right direction to sexual satisfaction.
So, let us know about some of your experiences – what worked, what didn’t, and how bondage has enhanced your sex life, and relationship in general!

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